Sometimes one of the hardest things about growth and change is seeing ourselves and our role in the outcome. Finding what is right with you might need to involve a kind of self-examination that means finding paths that repeatedly are not working. As I heard somewhere, "When nothing is right, go left!" This somewhat clever, even pithy slogan says a lot about what seems like a simple truth. But it is not. We need to first see just how something is not going right, and that sometimes there are decisions we make or how we view things about ourselves that are not working. One of the reasons that this is hard is because we are going on a path that has been shaped over time. In a way, we assume that this path is reality, rather realizing that it is really "our" reality. This is a big step. It is finding what we are doing and beginning to find that it can be tied to the outcome. We can begin to find choices and different paths to see what might fit better. Getting unstuck starts by finding out about these themes. These themes can form the heart of our growth. It is important to ask things like:
1) What are the role of themes of my life?
2) How do I work on them?
Steven M. Harris, PhD